By Michael Edison-Odiase
Life is one of our great teachers. After a time, you discover that many of the lessons life teaches you were not framed in the classrooms. Rather they were stumbled upon through intimate conversation with those closest to you.
In my case these lessons were taught, sometimes in unorthodox fashion from my father…
Speak like you have something to say, walk like you have somewhere to go:
From a very shy young man, I’ve encountered a handful of interactions both formal and informal which at that present time gripped me with fear.
I came to understand this principle – you have to make your audience, whether 5 or 50, care to pay attention.
Attitude, attitude, attitude
“Your character will take you a long way”
It is simply your choice to decide the direction and trajectory. Learn to control your temperament.
There’s nothing worse than saying the RIGHT thing with the WRONG attitude.
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason – you ought to listen more than you talk.
The mouth has a definite character which is it charts the course of your destiny. However the fruits which come out are only as good as the seeds sown.
For that reason it’s vital you may absolute attention whenever being spoken to, instructed, advised or guided – this is a skill that will take you or your child far in the class room. It pays to pay attention!
A wise man once said “Only a fool ducks down when the truth is being thrown at him“.
It is never comfortable to be corrected or “told-off”. However it take a humble and wise person to understand where/what areas they need to improve, update or change.
Being blind to a “flaw” is missing an opportunity to move forward and advance.
Crack the code!
This one is slightly off topic from communication/engagement but it’s something that has helped and done wonders.
Everything around you, including subjects study all follow “guiding principles”.
Take Maths for example; if you understand the pillars which are addition, subtraction, division, multiplication, fractions and decimals, everything else because simpler to understand.
If you can grasp the principles of multiplication then suddenly algebra or even Pythagoras becomes a walk in the park.
This works all the same with people and interactions – if you have a difficult lecture or teacher it’s likely you haven’t taken time to understand them.
Instead of reacting whenever something is said or done that you don’t like – time a moment to understand the person’s point of view. Then you can respond in way that brings resolution.